The Journey is…Olivia. “Mom’s are stupid sometimes.”

Smiling as I watched the busy little girl at the table next to us.  Up and down in her chair, talking & talking AND TALKING!…while the rest of the family sat basically in silence as they finished their meal.  The restaurant was full of people, but she caught my eye.  With her dark hair & almond eyes, she looked nothing like the rest of her family.  I assumed that like me, she was probably adopted.  My mind wondered as I thought back to my own childhood….Thinking that this little family had a likeness to my own as a little girl.  She continued fidgeting & talking…and asking for ICE CREAM over & over.

Then the likeness to my family suddenly came to a halt as I heard the mother speak these words:  “Don’t make me wish we hadn’t got you!”

I kept waiting for the rest of the sentence.  Surely I heard her wrong!!!  I kept thinking….“FINISH THE SENTENCE!”

Don’t make me wish we hadn’t got you….that big sandwich…that HUGE drink…that nasty, stinky, dirty pet hampster…SOMETHING…………ANYTHING!

But, NOTHING.  That was it.

Simply, Don’t make me wish we hadn’t got YOU.

I was SO MAD!  I wanted to revoke that mom’s parenting license!  I could literally feel my blood pressure rise…I had to make myself relax…or risk ruining the whole meal with my own family.  How did the little girl respond?  What did she do?  Nothing.  The mom hurriedly grabbed her by the arm & rushed her around the restaurant….out the door they went.  She was too young to understand those words…today.

So…to give her the benefit of the doubt…I will say, maybe that mom doesn’t realize the power that is held in the words that she speaks to her child.  Maybe…she even had similar words spoken to her as a child.

So since I will likely never see her again…I’ll take a minute here & to talk to that little girl.  Maybe she’ll read this one day, let’s just call her “Olivia” (I just love that name):

Dear Olivia,

It was so nice to see you today, you were the most precious child in that restaurant today.  I enjoyed watching as you filled the place with sunshine!   I’m sure you’ll learn to sit still long enough to eat lunch one day…and that ICE CREAM!!!  I know!  It’s hard to eat an old boring sandwich when they have all that delicious ICE CREAM just wating for us to enjoy!!!  Someday you’ll be a grown up…then you can eat dessert first if you want(that’s what I do sometimes)!

I am so sorry about what your mom said today.  I hope she stops!  You know, us moms aren’t perfect…we often say things that we don’t really mean when we’re frustrated.  Many times, we just repeat what we heard said to us when we were kids.

Olivia, you’re going to find in life that LOTS of people are going to say many hurtful things to you.  You know what?  Just because they say them….THAT DOESN’T MAKE IT TRUE!!!  For example:  If I say, “Olivia….you are a ROCK.  A great big, gray, mass…a boulder.”  You’re not going to be sad and think, “Well, it must be true.  I’m a rock…because Mrs. Julia said so.”  You’re not going to be sad and cry because now you just have to sit on the side of the road for the rest of your life, watching the cars drive by.  You’re going to think…that’s silly.  Mrs. Julia is so wrong…I’m a person!  You will just move on, forgetting about what I called you…

So your mom has said…”Don’t make me wish we hadn’t got you”.

What do YOU think about that?  How does that make YOU feel?  I’m guessing that makes you think that you are unwanted, that nobody loves you.  That if you don’t do everything just right, you are unlovable.  I just want to make sure you know, just because they said it and just because that’s how you feel….that doesn’t make it true.

Olivia, you were handcrafted by the Lord Jesus Christ himself!  YOU ARE who God says you are!  This is what He says…He says that you are Created in His image!  Filled with His LIFE!  God created you because He wanted to fellowship with you.  He IS Love…and that love lives in you and flows out of you.   You ARE here on this earth at this moment, for a specific purpose!  You are loved.  You are wanted.”

Your life will bless many, I know it already blessed mine!

Love,

Mrs. Julia

To all the parents that are reading this, I would say:  You chose to have them…you chose to keep them….or in this case…you chose to adopt her as your own.  Children are precious gifts from God…NOW CHOOSE to love them every minute of every day.  Make sure they know they are wanted…cherished ♥

 

The Journey is…THIRTY SEVEN.

THANKFUL THURSDAY!  Seasons of My Life….the 30-something years.

I am thankful for the opportunity to have learned this…

I AM

Julia Lynn Freeman…daughter of Delbert & Carol Freeman.

Julia Freeman Davis…wife of Matthew Davis….mother of 3…friend to many.

AND

Mrs. Julia…Children’s Minister, Youth Minister’s Wife, Pastor’s Wife

BECAUSE OF the seasons of my life…the changes & struggles

I have learned that I am ALSO:

Julia.

Child of God.

Runner.

Writer.

Dreamer.

With a mind of my own, capable of doing many things…including (but not limited to), allowing the Lord to minister to my spirit, trying new things by myself, driving in crazy traffic, grilling my own food & dressing semi-fashionable.  (May not seem like big accomplishments, but they mean a lot to me.)

Now…BECAUSE I LOVE MYSELF as MUCH  as I do my family…we are all able to love & value each other more.

In all your loving….remember to love yourself too! 

Be a giver…but learn to receive as well.

Your family will thank you for it!

If given the chance…going back to 21 does not even tempt me in the slightest bit!

I am thankful to be THIRTY SEVEN years old!  That’s a very nice place to be.

The Journey is…My Children

THANKFUL THURSDAY!  I’m thankful for my children!

I’m thankful for:

-Their loving spirit, and the relationship we have with each other.  Their teenage years are proving to be enjoyable.

-the opportunity to be their mother

-the pleasure of being their taxi driver & that they have places to go

-that the Lord supplies the gas $ to make that possible…however if it were possible to fit them, their friends & all the paraphanalia that accompanies them in a SMART CAR…I might consider getting one.

-interesting conversations with them that “boost my self esteem”…for example:

Daughter:  “Mom, you don’t look like a nerd anymore.”

Mom:  “Thanks?  I think.”

Daughter(in an attempt to make it better):  “Well…at least you used to be a CUTE nerd.”

Mom:  “I wasn’t so cute.  The really bad pictures…I keep hidden.”

It did cause me to think this thought:  “Who you were…is not who you ARE.  See yourself through the eyes of God…that’s the real you.  Know that each day is a new beginning.”  I believe this would minister to each person a different way…so I will leave off my commentary.

For Jessica(my daughter)…and this is still not the worst one…couldn’t bring myself to share them all yet:

"not so cute"

"cute nerd"

"now"

The Journey is…Valentine’s Day :(

Valentine’s Day….blah, blah, blah….with love to all my single girlfriends….

by Matt’n’Julia Freeman Davis on Wednesday, February 10, 2010 at 1:16pm

I admit it….I’m the Valentine’s Day Scrooge!

Crazy, I know….Valentine’s Day was always a traumatic day for me growing up(I may be exaggerating…but that is how my mind remembers it)…

Me…always somewhat nerdy…never picked for the couples skate…I did get something one time on Valentine’s Day from a guy…but at the same time…he was telling me he didn’t want to see me any more and asked if I cared if he asked one of my friends out…

I think I may be the only one who has been traumatized by Valentine’s Day…I don’t know 🙂  (If Kevin Cease is reading this…I KNOW…CRAZY…I should get over it already…when there are people in this world with REAL problems!  I know I’m blessed to have lived in my little happy world…but you still have to love me!  In fact I may tag you…just don’t cuss me out…haha…I love you!)

I didn’t get over this “holiday” even after I was married….until finally one day a few years ago…Matt bought a box of kids valentines cards for me…and wrote one for each year that I had been alive…from my first Valentine’s Day up until the current Valentine’s Day.

One for each year that he had loved me and was looking for me…but had not met me yet…and one for each year since….

That meant so much to me…and I wanted to share this with you all.

Even before Matt…I was complete…valuable….beautifully and wonderfully made in the image of God…I knew that!  But something about this man made holiday…I just let this world’s system impact how valuable I saw myself.

I just want to make sure you know….

You are loved an treasured….EVERYDAY!  Especially by the one who gave His life for you…JESUS!  You are perfect and complete just as you are….you were created for and are a fulfilling your divine purpose on this earth.  And if your hearts desire is to be married one day….you are loved by someone, somewhere that is praying for someone JUST LIKE YOU!  You don’t have to change one thing about you…those things others try to change about you are probably the things he likes the most…

Happy Valentines Day!  You are loved!

~Julia

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    • Jon D ShimeallAww, that is sweet.  We have never celebrated it.  Just not into it.  Though my kids do exchange cards with Awana group and homeschool group.

      February 10, 2010 at 1:44pm · LikeUnlike
    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman DavisMatt agrees w/you…He said it is a holiday someone made up to make money…it’s for little kids…and he doesn’t think that you should be told when you HAVE to tell someone you love them….and you should show your love for each other EVERY DAY!

      February 10, 2010 at 3:25pm · LikeUnlike
    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman DavisI agree…but it’s still important to ME, for him to acknowledge me in some way…so he does.

      February 10, 2010 at 3:28pm · LikeUnlike
    • Jon D ShimeallThat’s what marriage is all about.  Knowing what is important to the other spouse. 😉

      February 10, 2010 at 3:30pm · LikeUnlike
    • Kilsharion Deborah Land

      <3Well, let’s see…my first marriage ended two days before Valentine’s day.  My second ended shortly after V-Day.  My third was annulled the week of Valentine’s day.  Most years otherwise, I’ve spent flying solo on Valentine’s day with the… exception of the years I was with Andre….so, yeah.  It’s not exactly been the highlight day of my year for the last 20 some odd years.  And, the good Lord knows that if you even remotely thought you were nerdy, it put me into a whole different class of nerdom…Uber nerd?  **grins**Love you, Julia.  You are a wonderful and delightful woman – who I am glad to have as my sister.  Even more so, I am thrilled that you and Matt have such a wonderful, healthy and blessed life together.  I hope you share many, many more years to come. ♥See More

      February 10, 2010 at 6:10pm · LikeUnlike
    • Kilsharion Deborah LandAll that, btw, was to say…I am not exactly a major fan of the holiday.  Though, I’d like to do something special for Mike this year.

      February 10, 2010 at 6:15pm · LikeUnlike
    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman Davis I’m sure you’ll be cooking something amazing!  I could make spaghetti…that’s romantic right? (Lady & the Tramp)
      So, I’ll let you celebrate this year…but next…I vote we boycott Valentine’s Day…bah humbug……and I LOVE YOU TOO!  Today and everyday!

      February 11, 2010 at 10:43am · LikeUnlike
    • Stacy Smith MimsThank you for this post! I havent celebrated this holiday in 18yrs..romantically anyway!! I enjoyed reading it!  your so awesome and I love you!

      February 13, 2010 at 2:38pm · LikeUnlike
    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman DavisI Love you too Stacy!  Looking forward to tomorrow!

      February 13, 2010 at 4:37pm · LikeUnlike
    • Kilsharion Deborah LandLOL we actually went out for a two hour walk and are now watching the winter olympics – nothing really going on, here 😉

      February 14, 2010 at 4:37pm · LikeUnlike
    • Laurin BrownWow I wish I had read this sooner! : )

      February 16, 2010 at 6:14am · LikeUnlike
    • Crystal Smith

      Julia, you weren’t the only one who dredded seeing this holiday come. I grew up w/o a regular bf when it came around. No prospects at all, or a breakup just before it would come. Wait…I think I had one bf ..my last one a yr b4 me and my h…usband reconnected. Now we just choose to spend time regularly together. We actually go out for dinner and whatever on Feb 13th so we can have a less hectic time together. All the crowds and mad rushes by other ppl take the fun out of it.See More
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    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman Davis

      I know I’m not alone…I’ve already started seeing a few status updates of friends who are not looking forward to the 14th.
      It is a special day though!  Every day we are living, touching others is a day to celebrate!  I believe Matt is cor…rect…we should celebrate love each & every day!  Loving & valuing ourselves & our loved ones because of the Jesus who lives inside.  If everyone would see the treasure they truly are…goldmines!
      So you knew Andre’ when you were younger?…and I noticed you go on regular dates.  Love it!See More
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    • Crystal SmithI’ve known him since he was 17. We met at my home church in Jersey. He had a cousin he would visit in the summer. I was looking and praying for someone that loved God w/ all his heart, and would be affectionate. Andre’ is that person. Turns out I knew my husband all along and didn’t know it.

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    • Stacy Smith Mimsi love this…..a reminder!  our Lord has to be the one with our heart,  well for me..!

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    • Matt’n’Julia Freeman DavisThat’s so true Stacy!   Seeking that fulfillment in our own power, or looking to a mate to make us complete will never be enough.  Married or Single…we must always find our fulfillment FIRST in our RELATIONSHIP with the Lord.

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The Journey is…Fred Rogers

Today I was reminded of Mr. Rogers, you know, “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood…”

 

Just thought I would share some of his quotes:

Quotes – Fred Rogers (Mister Rogers)

“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
– Fred Rogers

Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them into nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and our anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it.
– Fred Rogers

We all have different gifts and different ways of saying to the world who we are. The world needs a sense of worth, and it will achieve it only by its people feeling they are worthwhile.
– Fred Rogers

It would have been sad for me to spend my life just trying to superimpose stuff on people rather than trying to encourage them to look within themselves for what’s of value.
– Fred Rogers

I think everybody longs to be loved and longs to know that he or she is lovable and, consequently, the greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they are loved and capable of loving.
– Fred Rogers

What really matters is not just our own winning but helping other people to win, too.
– Fred Rogers

I feel the greatest gift we can give to anybody is the gift of our honest self.

– Fred Rogers

At the center of the universe is a
loving heart that continues to beat
and that wants the best for every person.

Anything we can do to help foster
the intellect and spirit and emotional growth
of our fellow human beings, that is our job.

Those of us who have this particular vision
must continue against all odds.

Life is for service.

mister rogers neighborhood – fred rogers – 1928-2003

The Journey is….Valuable ~ a treasure.

Written many months ago…I am adding this to my blog today in Honor of Mr. Lemon’s Birthday!  Happy Birthday Mr. Kevin…you are a blessing!

Mr. Kevin is a…Lemon?

by Matt’n’Julia Freeman Davis on Wednesday, September 29, 2010 at 11:40pm

Every one of us knows a Mr. Kevin….my dad is also one of these…If you know him, you love him…or do you hate him…or maybe it’s both…it’s really hard to decide sometimes.  They have a heart of gold, and strong beliefs.  It’s in the delivery process of these beliefs that sometimes when they are done we are left feeling like….what in the world just happened here?  But when you sort it all out…they are normally correct!

Mr. Kevin once said to me when describing himself, “Not everyone likes strawberry, or vanilla….so that’s why God made chocolate”.   My first thought was,  “But chocolate is my favorite food EVER CREATED by God for us to enjoy!  Especially when it’s big chunks of it mixed in my ice cream!”  Mr. Kevin could NOT be chocolate!

But if he’s not strawberry, vanilla OR chocolate…what is he exactly?

I have come to the conclusion that Mr. Kevin is a LEMON!  On the outside it looks nice enough…but that first bite…just makes your mouth draw up just thinking about it doesn’t it?  I mean, we give it to our babies…just so we can watch the awful expression that they make & laugh at them.  Don’t give up on me Mr. Kevin…it gets better 🙂

Then again…when we gave it to Grace the first time…after that initial awful face, she LOVED IT!  One of her favorite treats when we go out to eat is eating everyone’s lemons off of their water glasses.

…and…if you think about it…you can really appreciate the Lemon & all that it ads to our culinary delights…

Sometimes that lemon needs just the perfect amount of sugar, water & ice added to it.  On a HOT Summer day, here in Alabama…a tall glass of fresh squeezed ice cold lemonade would be refreshingly delightful!  Just what we wanted!

What about the flavor it ads to our favorite foods?  Lemon Pepper Chicken, Lemon Ice Box Pie, Lemon & butter on our fish, etc. etc. etc….and my personal favorite use of lemon…lemon water…the lemon just makes it taste better!  WE LOVE LEMON!!!

Not only that…consider this!  We sometimes use Lemon as a preserving agent!  We are instructed to use lemon juice on our fresh fruit to keep it from turning brown!

I’m sure there are many other uses…but those are the first things that come to my mind.  While some people just don’t like lemon, in any form, ever…for most of us if we would take a little time to get to know the “lemon” we would embrace the very thing that upon first glance, and taste, we think we don’t even like at all.  When we take the time to understand it, we are able to see it’s value. What a variety of ways that this simple, little, yellow fruit ads so much flavor & zest to our lives!

So Mr. Kevin…and all you other Lemons out there….make no more apologies for who you are!  You are a gift to the body of Christ just as you are.  Sometimes God just has to use another person to come along & add a little sugar…or maybe He only needs a little of your citrus juices to make this particular recipe of life exactly what is needed at the time.  At times…the Lord has put you in a place with those who need you…your gifts act as a preserving agent…to keep them.

Sometimes He even needs you…just simply you…the whole fruit…because there are a few people out there who just LOVE YOU…the WHOLE FRUIT…exactly like you are!  Thank you for being the whole lemon to me…sometimes those things you have spoken in boldness are the things that I actually remember at just the perfect time.

You(Mr. Kevin) once said to me…A tree is content with being just a tree. Exactly what it was created to do…the same thing goes for the Lemon.  Be happy & content as the Lemon that God made you!

“He  makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own  special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is  healthy and growing and full of love.”

Ephesians 4:16

Mr. Kevin

…and if this didn’t make a bit of sense…or you don’t like it…I will gladly hit “delete”….seriously.